As I shared with you guys in my last post, this month’s post is dedicated to tackling topics that were asked by my Instagram followers. The question that I will be exploring in this particular post is one that says “Can you be a Christian and still enjoy premarital sex?” While I attempt to tackle this simple yet complicated question, I simply want you guys to know that I am coming from a place of love. I do not believe that I have everything figured out in my life or in my walk but I simply want to be Christ’s microphone. Sooo now that we have cleared the air, let’s get to this post.
The first thing I want to say in regards to this question is that sex in itself is a beautiful thing that was created by God. Our society has perverted the meaning of sex and now we see sex as a prerequisite before we enter a relationship. Sex was created to be enjoyed in the boundaries of a marriage covenant. Premarital sex is a sin. The truth about sin is that our flesh enjoys sin and this is why we are to crucify the flesh daily. It is enjoyable to steal someone’s else money rather than going to work for your own. It is enjoyable to tell a lie to avoid a punishment that you deserve. In the same way, premarital sex is enjoyable to the flesh. However, something important to note is that sin only brings temporary pleasures with eternal consequences. As a Christian, we are not to practice premarital sex because it is a sin. Premarital sex is a form of sexual immorality and it does not glorify God. 1 Thessalonians 3-7 says “It is God’s will that you should be sanctified: that you should avoid sexual immorality; that each of you should learn to control your own body in a way that is holy and honorable, not in passionate lust like the pagans, who do not know God; and that in this matter no one should wrong or take advantage of a brother or sister. The Lord will punish all those who commit such sins, as we told you and warned you before. For God did not call us to be impure, but to live a holy life.” As Christians, the Lord is calling us to a higher standard of purity and sexual immorality is impure. We choose to reject God when we continue to commit sexual sin. It is impossible to live the life of purpose that God wants for you when you remain in sin.
I have come to realize that avoiding premarital sex not only pleases God but it is also for our own safety. The truth about sex is that we become one with whoever we have sex with and we do not want to have a negative soul tie. Sexually Transmitted Demons are a reality and this is why it is important to guard our hearts and to keep ourselves until marriage. When we have sex with an individual, we immediately become one with that person. It is important that you do not become one with the wrong person. I am still a virgin and the reason why I choose to remain a virgin was simply because I love God more than I love my sexual desires. Our bodies are the temple of God and we need to do every thing in our power to ensure that they are not defiled.
Waiting to have sex till marriage is God’s desire. A lot of times we may fall into the sin of premarital sex because we are convinced that we will end up marrying our partners. However, if this is the case then we do not need to rush the journey. You will have the rest of your life to have sex with that individual so take your time to enjoy the process. Waiting to have sex also gives us a chance to get to know our partners beyond the surface. “Make-up sex” is no longer an option to use to brush an argument under the rug. When sex is out of the question, you are forced to confront issues through communication. When sex is not on the table, we are able to see when we are not in a relationship for the right reason. Sex takes away the blinders and we are able to see our partners for their true identity. A lot of times we remain in “bird box” relationships that are not beneficial to us because we are blinded by sex. There is joy that comes from waiting on the Lord till marriage.
We cannot call ourselves Christians if we are comfortable living in impurity. Only the pure in heart will see God and as Christians our eyes should constantly remain on the Lord. Let us strive to be Christians who are pure in our minds, bodies and spirits. For anyone who has had premarital sex, simply go to God and ask for forgiveness. The Lord gives grace for us to control our sexual impulses so simply go to Him for it when you need it. It is also important to set healthy boundaries to ensure that we are not giving any place to the devil. To answer your question, I do not believe we can be Christians and enjoy premarital sex. The fact that we are Christians means that we are seeking to please God with our lives and we flee from any form of iniquity. For any future explanation on this topic or if you need any prayers, feel free to contact me. Love you guys!